My Core Values
These values are the guiding principles in my life and my work with clients. Here’s what they mean to me.
When I was young, I was accused by someone of “thinking too much”. Although it was levied as a negative, once I matured I realized it was my super power. Thinking too much = thoughtfulness. I am full of thoughts, ideas, and insights and my favourite way to spend time is exchanging ideas and thinking of new possibilities. Thoughtfulness in therapy creates a safe space, it generates good questions, and it makes sure you feel seen.
“Less but better” is a favourite principle of mine. It’s about stripping away the non-essential and focusing on improving what matters most. Problems often feel big and complex. It’s often that complexity that makes us feel stuck with no obvious way forward. Simplicity in therapy guides us to the heart of the issue, helps us discover what is essential, and invites us to imagine how to do it better.
Putting yourself in someone else’s shoes - even for the briefest moment – can stop us in our tracks and allow us to see the world in a different way. Compassion takes practice; particularly in our closest relationships where we often assume to know the intentions of the other person. Growth happens when we don’t just have compassion for others, but for ourselves. Challenging your inner critic and learning self-compassion can be one of the most transformational aspects of therapy.
When everything is a priority, nothing is. Being able to identify what deserves our energy and consistently working on it is the secret to personal growth. I know this to be true because I consistently engage in my own personal therapy and clinical supervision. I don’t ask my clients to do anything that I wouldn’t do myself. I know first-hand the monumental shifts that can occur when you consistently show up and do the work.
When we are authentic with one another deep connection occurs. Brené Brown teaches us that authenticity is “the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen”. That takes courage and it takes practice. Therapy is the ideal place to practice showing up, being honest, and connecting. Ultimately, practicing authenticity in therapy empowers us to bring it into other areas of life.
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